People Will Judge the Character of Your Parents by Your Behavior

People Will Judge the Character of Your Parents by Your Behavior

From How to be a Man (1846) by Harvy Newcomb:

Children, likewise, honor or dishonor their parents in their general behavior. If they are rude and uncivil, they reflect dishonor upon their parents; for people say, they have not been trained and instructed at home. But when their behavior is respectful, correct, pure, and amiable, it reflects honor upon the parents. People will judge of the character of your parents by your behavior.

A beautiful point…and one that’s rarely though about.

  • Do I make my parents proud? Is my behavior a source of honor for them?

Most people think differently…because they’re centered on the first person: I, me, my, etc. And maybe that’s ok at times. But it’s good to mix it up a bit…start thinking about the people that put you on this earth – namely your parents.

Let’s just say that her parents fucked up.

Note: We can see the damage that Sigmund Freud has done. He divided the Western parent from his child…created a conflict between the father and his progeny. Perhaps he (more than anyone else) has weakened the character of the modern man.

See Related Article: How to Be a Man (1846 Versus 2015)

How to Be a Man (1846 Versus 2015)

Here we have How to Be a Man (A Book for Boys Containing Useful Hints on the Formation of Character) written in 1846.


Here we have How to Be a Man (and other illusions) written in 2015.


In 1846, the teenager has a definition of manhood; in 2015, he’s told that it’s an illusion. In 1846, the teenager has a road map on the Highway of Life; in 2015, the road is covered in fog.

How can you arrive at a distant location without a map? How can you learn a trade without a teacher? How can you become a man without a mentor?

The crisis of the modern man, illustrated in one juxtaposition.

See Related Article: Why Did Bill Nye Become a Feminist?