Recently, I was speaking to an older man that I know. We were talking about the challenges of life. This man – let’s call him Andy – is an “asexual”. In short, he’s never been married, has no girlfriend, and has no plans of acquiring one. To my knowledge, Andy is straight (although who knows what happens in the dead of night).
Eventually, about twenty minutes into the conversation, I was reminded of something…
An asexual man cannot give adequate advice to a family man.
The reason is simple (but increasingly convoluted the United States of Androgyny). A straight man is faced with challenges that the androgynous man avoids. Here’s just a few of them:
- How do you handle the emotional complexities of your wife?
- What lesson(s) will you teach to your daughter? To your son?
- How do you handle sexual temptation as a married man?
These are just a few, but I can list a hundred more.
The asexual man does not deal with these daily challenges. He’s looking at the Freeway of Love from a distance. He’s not willing to get into the squared circle, to put on the boxing gloves and fight. He’s waving the white flag on the Battlefield of Romance.
Therefore, the asexual man cannot guide the family man. He’s not facing the same obstacles; he’s not climbing a similar mountain. He’s not running in the same race.
Only somebody that walks in your shoes will know how they feel.
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